Category: Parenting Foster/Adopted Children
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From Foster Care to Prison: Why Kids Labeled “Bad” Deserve Better
“I was a bad kid.” That’s how three inmates began their stories. What I heard next made me question whether these children were ever truly “bad”—or simply left behind by the adults who were supposed to do the hard work of parenting.
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When Love Takes Time: How We Bonded After Adopting Older Children
Bonding with older adopted children takes time, patience, and consistent love. In this post, I share our real journey of adopting kids at ages 11, 6, and 4, and how attachment slowly developed through daily routines, trust-building moments, and simply showing up. If you’re navigating older-child adoption or struggling with connection, this story offers hope…
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The Heart Behind Fostering: Why Motive Matters More Than Money
When it comes to fostering or adopting, motive matters — more than most people realize. If someone is doing it for money, that’s the wrong motive from the start. This is a child — a real human being — who needs to be loved for who they are, not because someone needs to pay their…
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The Early Days of Fostering: Laughter, Tears, and Sleepless Nights
When the kids first came to live with us, life felt like a whirlwind of joy, confusion, and caffeine. We were learning about them, and they were learning about us — all under one roof that suddenly felt much smaller. One of my favorite memories from those early days happened at the mall. We had…
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Blind Faith: The Unexpected Journey That Changed Our Family Forever
I was a mother of four biological children and three stepchildren when a sibling group of three appeared in our lives — children who needed parents. At the time, I was working at a community center where two of the children began showing up regularly. Something about their situation didn’t sit right with me. I…